48. Deepening

“The knowledge and understanding of love is one thing, allowing love to deepen our spirit is what makes us part of the divine.” – Anonymous

This evening I had the honor to spend a couple of hours in hospice room 221. As I entered the room a wife, brother, friend, and chaplain were standing around a bed as a man was comfortably asleep. We formed a circle and the chaplain read the 23rd Psalm. Friends, family, and loved ones continued to fill the room with joy, love, and memories of this amazing man. An impromptu singing of Amazing Grace filled my heart with the kind of Life that words would not do justice to.

One of the man’s daughters introduced herself to me and we had an unforgettable conversation. The height of the conversation was us discussing the beautiful Love that was being expressed when I exclaimed “The Beatles nailed it, ‘All You Need is Love.’” She quickly replied “Well Burt Bacharach was not too far off when he said ‘What the World Needs Now is Love, Sweet Love.’” We looked at each other and it was as if we both had the same epiphany in that moment as she continued that the world is Love, we do not NEED anything, this life is Love and the rest is an illusion at best and probably closer to a delusion.

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, with a touch of LOVE on top. Leaning against the door frame that separated the room from a small bathroom I got to observe true love. A man, over eighty years old, had people come tell him thank you, tell him I Love you, and express other ways he had impacted them and others in such a profoundly positive way. Everyone had a chance to tell hilarious stories about his life, his brother shared some of his professional accomplishments, and he even had an MP3 player going in his ear so he could enjoy some of his favorite tunes by Bach, Chopin, and The Turtles “Happy Together.”

Why are these beautiful moments not available more in my life? Can I sing more? Can I tell people thank you more? Can I share a funny and fun story about a friend more? Can I tell you I Love you more? Can I have conversations about Love and death with people I just met? Can I talk about my deepest and most profound beliefs with you? Can WE entertain these conversations more often?

Affirmation: This Life is beautiful and perfect in its entirety. Love is my guiding force on this journey. Now I am found.

Call to Action: Take one of the questions in the last paragraph, or add one in the comments section, and seek an answer that is true for you. Please share how this might have shifted your Friday with our community.

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47. Thanksgiving Edition

“I am thankful for the life that I get to live today, it is better than any life I could have imagined.” – Anonymous

In my past many things were taken for granted.  I never realized all that I had.  The funny thing is, back then I had all the material things that I thought I wanted. About four years ago I experienced a life-changing event. I lost all of the material things and all the little things came into sharp focus since then. I wake up each morning grateful for another day alive.  My life is much richer today.  I am grateful for my family and my friends on such a different level these days.  The thing I am most grateful for is my new found ability to be open, honest, and the ability to trust those in my inner circle with my real problems, fears, hopes, dreams and desires.  These little things I have found to be much more priceless than any material possession I have ever had.

Eternally grateful

My gratitude list:

  • The Great Mystery of Love
  • Family
  • Friends
  • Marco & Aunt Leslie
  • CYLFriday
  • “My ego is no amigo” – Allison B.
  • Tempe & Las Cruces
  • Attempting to connect my mind, body and soul
  • books
  • Last but not least; You!

Much Love

In this moment as I write this, I am so very grateful. I can smell an abundance of flavors that have spread through the house. I can hear people debating over the football game on the television. The sound of children playing and others laughing is echoing off the walls. My house is full of people, not one of which is related to another. This holiday has brought us all together to share in fellowship and friendship in the absence of our own families. Since early this morning the door has been rotating, smile after smile, with each incoming face I am reminded of how important the relationships are that have grown about my world. In this moment I am so grateful for the love that my friends bring me and the love that they allow me to give to them!

In Love With Life

Affirmation: I am so grateful. I am so grateful. Thank you Life.

Call to Action: Please share your Thanksgiving thoughts with us.

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46. Possibility

“We fear our highest possibilities. We are generally afraid to become that which we can glimpse in our most perfect moments, under conditions of great courage.” – Abraham Maslow

In my life I have had various encounters with “greatness” and moments of “great courage” but many times I let them pass, as if the situation was an accident. Over the last week or so I have been contemplating and planning my next move, my next big step. I keep catching myself drifting towards little plans and little ideas. I am very happy I recognize this thinking, since I can then challenge myself to go bigger. My goal is to find that sweet spot between grandiose ego driven plans and a life that is played at a small level due to fear of my highest possibility.

I am not completely sure how I do this. When am I in fear, the stories (lies) I am telling myself have a theme of staying small. When I think about those perfect moments, I want to achieve that “greatness”, and those perfect moments more and more. The perfect place to start must be looking at my fears. Reflecting on those perfect moments, one thing always remains consistent, I was completely free of fear.

Being a contributor to CYLFriday.com has granted me an opportunity to go from doubting my writing skills to being extremely confident in my ability to write.  That process happened through having a thought followed by direct action.  My next step is to inventory my life and determine where else this has been the case, and what scenarios have allowed me to change my perspective.  With a clear perspective, I can have great courage that my choices are perfect and once again I will conquer those limiting fears.

Affirmation: I am ready to live full-out bringing to the table of life the most expressive me that I can.

Call to Action: Where are you playing small in your life and what will you do today to change that? Please share your plans with the CYLF community.

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45. Mistake

“A mistake is simply another way of doing things.”  – Katherine Graham

“mis•take: 1. an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc.” – dictionary.com

I love how this life is full of amazing chances to live, learn, grow, and change. I also know that I am extremely fortunate to be able to look for the good in a situation that is seemingly very bad.  Last night I made a mistake, “an error in action” as the definition provides.  The error in action that I made caused a friend to feel very uncomfortable; in response I too felt very uncomfortable, lost a little sleep and felt an urge to correct my actions.

What I kept thinking, when I was replaying this situation, was how I made a mistake and it needed to be fixed.  This contradicted a much deeper belief that there are no mistakes!  I do believe this to my core. Whenever I look back upon my life, I know today in this moment, several things that I have deemed as being “wrong” or negative in the moment have brought me to the place I am today and I would not change any of it.

Language is incredible and words are very important to me in my life. As I sift through this situation, the definition really sheds a great deal of light on my reality.  This definition does not state that a mistake is a “wrong,” it says it is an error.  The error becomes a “wrong” when I label it as such.  Alexander Pope was quoted to say, “To err is human; to forgive, divine.” In this moment I took an action that was an error; that makes me human.  My job now is to work through the overwhelming feeling that says I should label this as a “wrong,” I can do this through the second part of the quote which, reminds us that forgiveness is where the Love is.  In this situation I need to forgive myself so that I can re-enter the world and be present for all of the good that is coming to me and from me.

Affirmation:  There are no mistakes, every error is a chance to learn and grow!

Call to action: As you make mistakes, find the good, learn from them, and share the results with us.

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44. Decision

“It doesn’t matter which side of the fence you get off on sometimes. What matters most is getting off. You cannot make progress without making decisions.” – Jim Rohn

I hate campaign propaganda, election time, and everything that goes with it. On my list of important things in life politics is not on it. I have made a decision to vote this election. I am not proud to say it, but I have only voted one other time in my life, and in that election I voted for Mike Tyson for School Superintendant, literally.

This all came about when I was listening to a speaker about getting out of debt and making better decisions about money. It dawned on me that when I become engaged and an active participant in any area of my life it gets better. Over the last few months I have been paying down debt and saving money at the same time. In just 5 short months my financial situation is in much better order.

This is not a call to get out and vote, not a fiscal responsibility reminder, and not a demand to make a decision one way or another. I know that when I make decisions out of love, and my motivation is to become a better me, my life improves. When I am not engaged in my life, and my main action is inaction, I am allowing others to dictate that area of my life. I am even excited about decisions that have not worked out for me because those are things I have learned from and grown from. Through mindful action and decisions I am proud to say I am much happier with my life than I was 5 years ago.

Affirmation: My heart is filled with love. I allow this love to guide every decision I make today.

Call to Action: Find one area in your life that needs improving or that you have been ignoring in such a way that you are not truly sure the status of it at all. Join with us CYLFriday friends and make a decision to do something different with that aspect of life.

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