8. Connection

“Could a greater miracle take place than for us to look through each other’s eyes for an instant?” – Henry David Thoreau

Our words and actions affect the people we come in contact with every day. Yesterday, a good friend shared an experience he had. He walked into the bank for his biweekly visit to cash his paycheck. He exchanged pleasantries with the teller and she looked at him and said “It is the greatest day of my life.” My friend replied “Oh yeah why is that?” and she answered “because I choose it to be.”

Rewind two weeks with the same teller and she asks, “How is your day?” He responds with “It’s the greatest day of my life.” “Is that because you got paid today?” she quickly shot back. “No, it’s because I choose it to be.”  This initial connection was fueled by a conversation that occurred two months earlier.

My buddy was in a discussion with a group of people and as another guy approached he turned to the guy and said, “How are you?” and without a flinch the guy exclaimed “It’s the greatest day of my life.” Taken a back my friend responded “How come?” as you can probably predict his response was “Because I choose it to be, and tomorrow I get to wake up and have the greatest day of my life all over again.”

Before he left the bank the teller told my buddy she was in total awe after their initial conversation. One of the teller’s co-workers walked up and thanked my friend for always having such a positive attitude. The connections we make on a daily basis are important and significant. Do we want to be a positive force and surround our self with positivity or not?

Affirmation: I am connected to everything and everyone. I am a drop of good in this Ocean of life.

Call to Action: This week notice a new way you can connect with a family member, old friend, or bank teller. Please share with us that connection.

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7. Love – We Love you Marco

“We loved with a love that was more than love”  – Edgar Allan Poe

Love seems appropriate this time of year. The confusion of love, the wonder of love, is it the right kind of love, am I getting enough love, or better yet am I giving enough love?

I am blessed to have incredible friends in my circle, one of my most respectable friends used to tell me that Love is the meaning of life. Although I looked up to him, I took what he said with a grain of salt. As I have grown older, I realize it is not just the romantic love he was speaking of. There is: the love I have for my family, the love I have for my friends, the love for the beauty of nature, of art and the ingenuity of man.  As I grow into a more loving adult I become a better person. I can love people through their faults today. I can love the seemingly unlovable.

Today I believe that love is part of the meaning of life: To love and be loved, to build relationships and nurture them, to be a friend, a brother, a son or a daughter, sister, a parent, a teacher, a mentor, or just a good listener to lend an ear. If we share our knowledge and our compassion with others we will receive it in places we never expected.

Affirmation: Love is all there is. I love me, others and life with all my heart.

Call to Action:  Find a spot in your life that you may not be showing love and see how love can transform your perception of that person, place or thing.

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6. Enthusiasm

“Enthusiasm is contagious. Not having enthusiasm is also contagious.” –Fortune Cookie

I think I figured it out, life that is.  It is pretty simple too. Step 1: Get up and get excited for the chance to be alive and breathing.  Step 2: Spread that feeling of excitement and enthusiasm to everyone you meet.  Step 3:  Accept that feeling back with the same joy that you gave it.  Step 4: Repeat.

Human emotion is more vigorously contagious than anything else in the cosmos, you see a baby smile, you smile. You walk into a room full of angry people and you are disturbed.  It happens instantaneously without thought or action.  For that reason a little bit of excitement for life will go a long way, also a total lack of interest will carry the same wave throughout your experience.

I am excited to be alive today.  Instead of just saying this or writing it on the Internet for all to see I need to go spread that feeling to all the people that I come in contact with today.  It is Friday, get pumped up, get excited, live a little, not just for You but for Us.

Affirmation: I accept and love that I am connected to everyone. Today I embrace this connection and enthusiastically spread joy and excitement to everyone I meet.

Call to Action: Determine one thing in your life that you engage with apathy. Let someone know what part of your life this is, and for one week bring enthusiasm to this area of your life. Let us know what  you will be changing in the comment section.

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5. Freedom

“Then you’re trapped in your lovely nest, and the things you used to own; now they own you.”  – Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

Welcome to February. This week a friend and I were discussing the things that are truly important to us. We watched a thirteen month old child experience the world around him as we conversed.  His seemingly random facial expressions caught my eye. After a few more minutes, it became obvious his expressions were deliberate because he was living in the moment.  He flipped through his picture book and would stop on a page that seemed the most interesting, as he took in the page, laughter and happy noises that only an infant can express followed.

Our conversation quickly moved to why it is such a challenge for us to live in the moment. I was able to recognize the distractions that have developed because I would just do them. Do I really need to check my Facebook every 10 minutes? Nope! Do I really need to check my phone for texts every 5 minutes even when my ringer is on? Probably not!

This simple conversation, which was interrupted due to the curious young man “inspecting” electrical outlets, made me really start to look at my life. I have some practices that serve me and some that I serve. I know today that through honest analysis and simple action these habits that have turned to rituals can be let go of. When, I am not a prisoner of mindless habits I can experience true freedom.

Affirmation: Today I am free to choose actions that serve my greatest good.

Call to Action: Look at your life and determine one habit that you would love to release. Share this with a friend and have them hold you accountable for one week on your road to freedom.

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